What Do You Desire?
As many of you may already know, I’ve been going through some growing pains this year. I prefer to call it a “personal growth journey” but it’s definitely been a pain in my ass at times. I came to the realization earlier this year that I wasn’t living up to my full potential and that I had more important things to do with my time than spend day after day at a corporate job that paid the bills but often made me miserable. And even the times it didn’t make me miserable, I was bored and unfulfilled.
The thing is when you come to this kind of realization and you really embrace it, like I did, you can’t turn back.
Ever.
I mean, maybe you can turn back and decide the journey is too hard – because it is definitely much, much harder than the original path. But you won’t ever forget what you learned and what you realized about life, which is that we are in control of our happiness, our present and our future. And that we don’t have to do what we’re “supposed” to do.
Clearly, it’s not as easy as quitting your job and following your passion. I did the first part but the second part is much trickier.
Lucky for me, I have this pretty fantastic life coach who happens to be on her own journey and is able to remind me that I need to chill the **ck out, stop over thinking everything, and live in the present. (She has a little better tact than that but you get the point.) She also has an awesome blog that she posts stuff like this video to and it reminds me that I’m doing the right thing, even if it’s really, really scary and really, really hard. I’ve seen this video before but I couldn’t have needed it more today and that’s just how things happen when you’re open to them happening. So, please – I beg you – take 3 minutes and watch this video.
Good stuff, right?
So, what is it that you desire? What would you do if money didn’t matter?
These are actually hard questions to answer for a lot of people, including myself, and only recently have I begun to figure it out. Though I must admit I have a long way to go. For me, part of the challenge was having the balls to say it out loud. I hate to admit it (like I really, really hate to admit it), but I care a lot about what people think and telling someone what I’m passionate about feels a little silly, and vulnerable. But I think it’s pretty much the first and most important step.
So, here’s what I would do with my life if money didn’t matter:
First and foremost, I’d write. I’d write about my life, about the people I meet, the places I go, and what I’ve learned. I’d also try to write fiction. And I’d want to help inspire others to write.
Other things I’d do with my time if money didn’t matter:
- I’d speak. In public… to whoever would listen.
- I’d teach. In some way or another.
- I’d travel. To any and everywhere. Then I’d speak and write about it.
Now it’s your turn. Write below in a comment and share with me what you would be doing right now this very second if money didn’t matter. I hope you’ll share but even if you don’t want to, give yourself the benefit of thinking about it and not forgetting what you stumble upon.
Are you sure we aren’t long-lost sisters?
I was just discussing this very question with a new-old-soul-friend the other day. It was a revolution to me when I thought about what I would do “next” if money wasn’t an object: I would house-sit across the world to really live in a place and gather the stories around me. I realized that I could do that right now if I was brave enough to take that leap. I love the video and prompt to publish our desires publicly. So what do I desire?
- Travel.
- Hearing and sharing stories – making deep connections.
- Helping others.
- Exploring Art.
- Challenge.
I told my friend that if I had a half-million dollars tomorrow I would buy a house in the country and create an artist’s house/commune to keep as home base while supporting artists of all varieties do what they love. Then I would travel and write. A simple dream worth working towards.
Thank you for being vulnerable. Thank you for leading by example. Thank you for chasing down your desires — the world is and will be a better place for it.
Well Jo – it is quite possible that we are long-lost soul sisters.
And thank you for coming by and for sharing your desires. Just promise me one thing: When you open up your artist house/commune… can I pretty please come live there?
The funny thing (and the hardest thing for me) is realizing a lot of these desires are things we can do right now, if we just have the bravery to leap – like you said. I think we’ve both done a lot of leaping in the past year so yay for us making the first steps and let’s just keep on truckin!
Love your blogs Dani…they are so motivating and they seem to come on days when I am feeling so unmotivated…so thank you! I also love how you inspire us to think and write…we all need to do that more for our sanity!! So what would I do if money (and in my case..time) were no object???
1) Dance (not like dancing around the house but like dance classes). This has been my passion since I was 3 and I have ALWAYS taken dance classes all my life until I started in the working world and there was no more time.
2) Health and Fitness -when I got laid off the first time…I had all this time on my hands so I worked out..every day…there was nothing else I could focus my time on because I had no job…so working out and being healthy became important to me…not so much anymore…makes me sad…
3) Travel-if it were up to me I would go to a different place (in this country or out of this country) every month! Seeing new places makes me happy…like really happy!
4) Helping others! Its a known fact that helping others makes us happy…and if we are happy…our days (and lives) are better! So if it’s that easy..I would like to help someone out in need every day!
One more thing I think you will love Dani. I recently got the chance to listen to Jeffrey Gitomer speak…and one of the things he said was to add the phrase “until my ass falls off” to everything you do in life…and you will work that much harder! So whether it be writing, or travelling or working harder..do it till your ass falls off…it works! LOL
Melissa – thank you so much for sharing! I do love that and I will definitely write till my ass falls off and for sure live life to the fullest till my ass falls off. Perfect!
One thing I can tell you that I’m personally learning is that what we make a priority is our priority so we are all guilty of not having enough time to workout and be healthy, or read that book, or take that course, but ultimately we have the power to make it a priority when we’re ready for it to be. You are an amazing person and you kick ass and take names at whatever you do – so I know when you’re ready to fit these things into your life, you’ll do it till your ass falls off! Just don’t beat yourself up too much in the meantime.
Love you!
I would:
1. Organize EVERYTHING and help people drowning in chaos confusion.
2. I would sing in a band in small venues.
3. I would write humorous stories to make people smile and hopefully laugh out loud.
4. I would sit, every single day, for at least hour by the lake and watch the birds and the fish and the clouds overhead and celebrate being blessed with life and music and laughter.
Amy – I absolutely love this list. And I especially love how specific you are about it all. I have a feeling you’ve thought about these things before. I am working on getting even more specific with mine.
Thanks so much for sharing!
Ok here’s my two cents and this list is by no means complete.
1)Definitely travel! Whenever I get vacation time I’m outta here. First stop would be Europe and then I’d take the train to other countries exploring. I would stay extended lengths of time so I could really get a feel for the culture and it’s people.
2)Teach/Coach. I have done it most of my adult life but had to stop when I got the “corporate job”. I would go back to teaching little kids how to play soccer and also teach people (probably kids) how to read.
3) Health/Fitness like Melissa said. With the job I have now my hours are longer so I find myself coming in earlier and leaving much later. I like to work out in the morning but there never seems to be enough time and my health is suffering for it.
4) Learn how to cook – absolutely no time for that now.
5) Volunteer or somehow get involved with the ARTs. I love the theater, music, art, etc.
6) Just be. I feel like through this maze of life we are so rushed trying to achieve this, go there, etc. that we aren’t stopping to appreciate life, nature, our friends. At least I’m not.
This video really makes you think and dovetails with the journey I’ve been on recently. I’ll be rewatching this to keep myself motivated.
Thanks Dani as always!
Lynda,
This is a fantastic list! And I have to agree, mine is by no means complete either. I think that’s the fun and beauty of it all – that the list keeps evolving and growing and changing. Some things that I desired two years ago are completely different than what’s most important to me now. I think that’s okay and it’s even better that we can acknowledge that what we really want in life does and will change.
As always, thanks for stopping by and especially for sharing your desires. I love hearing everyone’s comments!
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